Dear Mr. Right, From Cerulean

So, who is Mr. Right? Well, that definition has changed and evolved over the years I’ve been single in New York. With each new person I meet there is always the possibility of finding something I adore or loathe about a person. So for now, the following description of Mr. Right should suffice…until I am swept off my feet.

Mr. Right gets along with just about everyone. He is comfortable in large diverse crowds of people. He neither stands out as the center of attention, nor does he blend into the background like a wall flower. He likes to read books as much as I do and be physically active as much as I do. He doesn’t smoke or do drugs and doesn’t enjoy alcohol more than conversation. He is passionate about his work, or he enjoys his work because it allows him to do what he is passionate about on the side. Ideally he is generous with his time and volunteers with some organization that helps humanity for the better.

He is laid back and witty and can put even the grumpiest of people at ease with his soothing tone and calm way of speaking. He takes the time to be polite, sincerely polite to everyone- taxi drivers, waiters, bussers, the train conductor, etc…

He will lead when necessary and he knows he’s capable of being successful. He will follow when he knows there are others more qualified and deserving of the role. He will allow things between us to unfold at a slower pace than the typical New York minute demands. He won’t rush me or pressure me into anything I am unsure about. He will ask my opinion and actually listen and care. He will let me pick half the movies we go to, and he won’t be pissed off at me if the movie is bad. He prefers to call me instead of text message me. I don’t want him to fix everything that he might think is broken in my life, but I want him to be able to hug me and still love me when something breaks, and I feel broke. He is not passive aggressive. He will tell me straight up if I have done something to make him angry or hurt and in turn he will learn to understand what makes me angry and hurt. There is no mind-reading or assumption of other telepathic powers. What needs to be said will be said. Mr. Right likes cats.