OTP (On The Prowl)

Yeah. There is no need to get embarrassed about going up to him and igniting the conversation. If it goes well fine, if it does not, that is fine too. There are other men in your view so there are plenty to look at and a few to select that catches your eye.

“Girls have to do it passively”. Aw, Magnolia, I have to disagree with you big time on this. You don’t have to wait for anybody or anything. Yes, you have to be comfortable in your own skin, absolutely! And when you are comfortable in your own skin, that is the best time to go for what you want. If you see a guy or meet a guy you’re into, there is nothing wrong with being the one to “start” something. The worst that can happen is that he says no. So what? You’re rejected. It happens all the time. You move on. Yes, trust me I totally understand the kick to the gut/self esteem and the desperation that arises out of all the rejections. Been there. Done that. Still doing that. It is totally, TOTALLY frustrating (I’ve seriously messed up some friendships by being awkward idiot girl around guys I liked) but in the end, if it gets messed up, well…then that person wasn’t really someone I needed in my life. Friends, true friends stay by your side even when you make an idiot out of yourself. Guys who become friends know how to handle a girl who has a crush on them without making her feel like a loser. Guys worth having a crush on will be flattered that you’re into them and if they feel the same way they’ll take you up on the offer of a date. If not, they’ll say no.
Don’t be passive. Don’t! Dating takes practice of sorts….the more you make the effort to “go after” a guy the better you get at it. You’ll learn from trial and error. Also, you’ll embarrass yourself so many times you won’t get embarrassed anymore (yes, this is how I’ve come to be). You’ll learn to shake it off, roll with the punches, and laugh at yourself even when others are laughing at you.