Dating can be really confusing. Especially if you’re not really dating someone. Or you think you’re dating someone but that someone doesn’t believe they’re dating you. What’s a dater to do? Here are 5 sure-fire signs that tell you you’ve successfully landed yourself in the Just Friends Zone.

1. It’s you who’s always initiating contact or planning things. Relationships are a 2-way street. Platonic relationships often times can be a 1-way street. (Don’t lie you know you have a friend or two that does all the work for you when it comes to hanging out.)

2. He/she refers to you as just a friend. Simple, right? Don’t get it twisted!

3. He/she talks about other people they’d like to romantically pursue because that’s what you do with friends. If this person talks like this and sees you more than just a friend, you might want to rethink your relationship.

4. He/she wants to set you up with other people. If that isn’t clear enough for you, I don’t know what is.

5. He/she only “wants you” when they’re drunk. In actual relationships, alcohol isn’t necessary to be wanted.