As an independent single woman who has been financially on her own since she left for college, I am used to paying for everything in my life completely on my own. No help from the parents. No help from boyfriends. Just me sometimes working 3 jobs to pull it all off, but I make ends meet.

So, when it comes to dating I’ve gotten really used to dating on the cheap. The summer is the BEST time in the city to date because there are so many free movie screenings, plays, dances, concerts, festivals to keep a person entertained. Its so easy to suggest an afternoon picnic in the park as a date. Pack up some peanut butter and jelly sandwiches, a water bottle, some fresh fruit, and cookies and you’re pretty much set for a laid back date in Central Park. More »

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I should probably explain what happened with Michal.

Short Recap: I was super excited and giddy when we first started dating. I had crushed on him for a year before we went on our first date. Within the first real month of us going on dates, people were already referring to us as boyfriend and girlfriend. He was already planning a trip for the two of us at the end of July. More »

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Seriously, I almost peed myself watching this. I can relate to absolutely everything these guys are mimicking. I can easily pick 3 of my female friends and a night out and without a doubt recreate a scene like this without scripting it. It would just happen… More »

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Things with Michal have been inching along like a snail on sleeping pills…and its mainly me who has been pushing sleeping pills on the poor snail. More »

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The Internet and online profiles on social networking sites are tools for closet stalkers to indulge in their stalker behavior. For the most part without being found out. Duh. You know this. You may even do this.

I know I do. I stalk. I Facebook stalk people. More »

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‘Would telling the truth or telling a lie bring about the better consequences?’

I came upon the article above and it got me thinking about my dating life.

I lie. Technically a sin but there are philosophical debates about “appropriate” times to lie and what lies are “white lies.” I don’t like to lie. I’m not very good at it which is fine because in all areas of my life I don’t need reasons to be deceitful…except when it comes to lack luster dating. The following are some of my most often used and/or favorite excuses to use in order to flee a scene.

1. “I have to cat/dog/baby/plant sit.” This excuse has come in handy during those dates that start off ok and then sort of turn into something I want to escape from. You can just as easily pretend like you forgot and suddenly jump up and rush out after looking at your watch and realizing the time. More »

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I’m terrified. Absolutely scared out of my mind that I am going to fall hard and it’s going to hurt and I’m going to somehow mess this all up and lose a good friend in the process of breaking both of our hearts and I haven’t even gotten to the 4th date yet and I’m freakin’. Seriously. FREAKIN’. THE. EFF. OUT. *breathe* *breathe* More »

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Friday February 12th was shaping up to be just another Friday. I was stressed about meeting a deadline at work, bummed a date had canceled for Saturday night, excited about a date with Michal that was still on for later that night, pumped for a long training run Saturday day, cynical about the upcoming Valentine’s Day hooplah, sick to my tummy from eating too many Dove chocolates a co-worker had brought in (I kept eating them to read the Martha Stewart quotes on the inside of the wrappers). In general, I was a bit melancholy and couldn’t shake the feeling. More »

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Dear Guy on our first date,

1) I’m not impressed by lots of money. Yes, its nice to have a guy buy dinner for me every time we go out and to pay for everything, but sweetie, if you’re worth my time, I’ll want to hang out with you regardless and we can split the bill. I’ll be ok with that. If you’re broke, that little tidbit will show itself in due time. There are other ways to charm me. If you do talk about money and it matters that much to you, I will not be seeing you again after the first date. More »

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Arlen contacted me via a dating website. We got along well enough in e-mail and I couldn’t really tell what he looked like other than he was decent looking. In all his pictures it was either of his profile, sort of far away, or he was making silly faces.

In person, he was hot. Totally hot. His profile pictures had not done the man’s physical appearance justice, at all. He was the first date I’ve been on in a loooooooooong time where I felt instantly physically attracted to him before having spoken a single word to him. 6′ -1″, broad shoulders, 5 o’clock shadow, rugged handsome, outdoorsy, light brownish blonde wavy hair, pale brown eyes that look like maple syrup in a glass container when the light shines through.

He had been waiting at Grey Dog, and when I walked in and he stood up to greet me, my whole body blushed- he was that hot. More »

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